Can you really live without TRUST? From an early age, we live and make decisions based on what we think we know to be true. TRUTH. What we TRUST to be the REALITY around us. Sometimes life does throw us a curveball, and we cannot even explain it. And sometimes our fellow men and women do the same. We cannot control LIFE and all of it’s circumstances, but we can control whom we TRUST.
Many years ago, a professor likened TRUST between people to a bank account. For example: When I first met you (if I know you), I began to keep a mental account of you and you did the same of me. Every time I tell you something that is TRUE or do something reliable, I make a deposit in your account and vice versa. Every time I tell you something that is NOT true or do something that is untrustworthy, I make a withdrawal.
Whether you realize it or not, most of us view relationships that way. When a person repeatedly tells you untruths or does things that are untrustworthy, they deplete their account and eventually you have no trust left for them. If and when this happens, they must build that trust back up before the relationship with be healthy.
In other words, if a person is genuine, true, and seems to care, you will naturally trust them more. If they continue to abuse your relationship and do things that make you think they don’t care, your relationship will run out of gas.
MAKE SENSE???
SO … A great thing to do to start 2019 would be to take stock of the people around you and the way YOU impact those relationships. I cannot control those around me, but I can control how I respond to them. And I can choose to bring my best to the relationship!!!
And, so can you!!!
The Random Thinker 