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A Difficult Christmas
28 DecChristmas has always been a time of the year filled with wonder for me. Always a time when the little kid in me can still feel that spark of magic if you will … NOT taking away from the real meaning of Christmas in this, but there is something about gathering with family. Being home in Easley. Never knowing what Santa was going to do. Enjoying time with family, especially with my mom and dad. I basically left their home a little over 25 years ago to start a new home with my beautiful young bride, and Christmas has always been a time of coming back to that solid relationship with my parents and family. And I have always loved it.
This year, however, was different. It was good that both of my sisters and their families were home this Christmas. First time that has happened since 2003. The population of mom and dad’s house went from 2 to 12 people, and no dogs to three. Honestly, this year I never felt like we were too crowded or getting tired of being around all of those people. Those people are my family and it was great! But, that was only a bright spot in all of this.
This year was different. Every time I go home I can see changes in Dad. Not only is his memory going down, but his general awareness of where he is and who is there with him is quickly fading. I see it in his eyes and hear it in our conversations. I worry about Mom because I also see the toll this is taking on her. She is overworked, yet very protective of her role … so much so that offering help is often met with a “no thank you.”
All of this has made for the most melancholy Christmas I’ve ever experienced. I guess I’ve realized Christmas will never be the same again… Thought about that a lot as I drove yesterday. We left Easley a little after 12, drove to Clemson to have lunch with Amy Williams and go by Krissy’s apartment so she could pick up a couple of things. Then we drove to Charlotte to visit IKEA. Then we tried to go to a Carrabbas in downtown Charlotte, and didn’t realize the Belk Bowl was going on in Charlotte (which Duke TANKED in the last minute and a half). So we headed on down I-77, only to find bumper-to-bumper traffic at the state line due to a wreck. We FINALLY made it to Carrabbas at Spring Valley, ate a great supper, and got home a little before 10pm. It was the longest trip from Easley to Florence I’ve ever had. A lot of driving time, maybe too much time to think. At one point I was thinking “I can see how the Grinch got his start…” Then I realized green is just not my color, so THAT is not an option even though Bailey would make a great “Max.”
All in all, I’ve got to get my head on straight concerning all of this. This is where life has placed us … It will be as miserable or peaceful as we allow it to be. I KNOW my God will walk every step of this with me and my family. Just didn’t expect it quite so soon, and quite like this.
Staying on the mountain top??
18 DecI read something this morning in our Word for Today devotion book that really struck me. Worth thinking more about. In the context of God moving us out of our comfort zones, the writer wrote “It’s okay to wait on God for directions and the power to carry them out, but not to keep repeating some earlier experience you’ve had.” But, WE LIKE THE MOUNTAIN TOP!!
I’ll never forget the first mountain top experience I had after accepting Christ. It was in a youth worship rally … I was an adult youth worker, but it was powerful. One of those worship times where I never wanted to leave. Kind of like Student Life, Centrifuge, and their cousins, these worship experiences are designed to take us to the mountain top.
Just like Moses in Exodus (chapters 19-32). Moses was up on Mount Sinai, FACE TO FACE with God (so to speak). Certainly a POWERFUL time of worship for him. But he had to come down. God NEEDED Moses to lead the people. I’ve always wondered if I’d been Moses, and I came down from this awesome time of God and saw the children of Israel, my flock, engaged in idolatry and other disgusting actions, worshiping a golden calf and absolutely not thinking about God at all, would I have said: “Hey, guys … I think I left my phone up there. Back in a little while!!” And gone BACK UP there with God and said “It’s so nice up here with you, I want to stay FOREVER!!”
When we seek to construct our lives and the lives of our children to stay on the mountain top, we are actually in direct opposition to God’s will for our lives. He calls us to the mountain top, and He also calls us into the valleys. But He never calls us ANYWHERE that He won’t go with us … that He won’t EMPOWER us. You KNOW it was hard for Moses to walk back down that mountain and do what he was called to do. But he did it. And God was glorified in the end. And Moses was seen as righteous in God’s eyes …
Get on the bus!!!
10 DecOne of the most important facets of a church is leadership. Helping the right people accomplish the right things to build the kingdom of God. Who determines the right people?? Who determines the right things?? GOD. This is the first building block in getting the bus going in the right direction.
Several years ago I read a book by Jim Collins called Good to Great. I really enjoyed this book and learned a lot. In this work, Collins studied several corporations in the US and analyzed what set them above others in their respective industries. One of the most powerful ideas in this book was the concept of getting the right people into the right seats on the bus!!
I preach this and BEG the ministry selection team and nominating ministry team of Ebenezer to always find the right people for the right seats on the bus. HOW DO WE DO THIS?? Pray. Evaluate. Pray more. Open our eyes and ears to what is going on. In order to help the right people find the right seats on the bus, you have to see and hear what is going on around you. Getting the wrong people into the seat can be disastrous for a team called to accomplish a specific mission. In my decades of church work, I’ve heard it before: “I don’t know why they put me on the Sports Committee. I HATE sports.” A situation like that will make for a miserable time serving and a reluctance to serve again. Find the right people for the right seats on the bus and GET THEM ON THERE!!!
I am thankful for our staff right now. It’s Christmastime (one of the most stressful times of the year for us), we are short-staffed right now, and yet morale is good and everyone is pitching in to help. Life goes on, and so does the church. I came into the office today a little overwhelmed by all ahead of me this week, and it is nice to look around and see people that I know have my back. The right people in the right seats. That is why it is SOOO important to find the right person … God’s person … for our student ministry vacancy.
Pray for us. And I’ll pray for you. And, if you don’t have a seat on the bus, pray and ask God what He wants you to do. And let me know!!!!!
Gotta LOVE the EBC Tech Team
10 DecHave you ever wanted to know what REALLY goes on around the church office during the week???
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Today’s sermon: Why did Jesus come?? HOPE
9 DecWhy did Jesus come?? HOPE from Ebenezer BC on Vimeo.
25 Years Ago … TODAY
5 Dec25 years ago … a quarter-century ago … I did the smartest thing I’ve ever done (besides accept Christ as my Savior). I married my best friend.
Life has been quite an adventure since then. In every way, Diana has been the perfect compliment to me and my weaknesses… When we married, I was starting a career I loved as a computer programmer. We had planned to build a house on a couple of acres my mom and dad gave us adjacent to their property (when we could afford it). Life was all mapped out and we were good with it.
About one month after our wedding, my mom was diagnosed with cancer. She had a tough battle, and Diana was right there with me helping. And it was hard. They say the first year of marriage is tough, and ours was really hard. Mom got on the road to recovery (and has done very well since) and life resumed … until God called a couple of years later.
After I ran from His call for a while, life took us to New Orleans and my being a full-time student. Diana didn’t flinch at the fact that she would have to find a full-time job (even though we’d been able to afford for her to be a stay-at-home mom with our toddler, Krissy). Those were some of the toughest times, and also some of the best.
Since those days, life has been quite a roller coaster. I guess everyone can say that about life, but our roller coaster has had some hills, valleys, and sharp turns that would snap your neck. And in every unexpected turn, there she is … my wife … holding on tight for the ride and not shaken by any of it. And able to make sense of it all.
Has life turned out like we dreamed many years ago?? Yes and no. No, we are not where we’d mapped things out. But that’s okay. Because, truth is, we wouldn’t be happy being anywhere but where God wants us to be. And I thank God for my wife, who not only understands that, but is willing to serve Him right along side me.
So, I know I’m a blessed man!!
