Loss

18 May

The circle of life is somewhat predictable.  Just as sure as we are born, we will die one day unless Christ returns before our time is up.  It is a fact of life with which we deal every day.  And in a church the size of Ebenezer, some family is ALWAYS walking through that valley of the shadow of death.

Well, this week will be one of my turns.  My uncle, Roger Wayne Radcliffe, died last night.  It seems like only a few weeks ago when I heard the news of his pancreatic cancer.  When I heard that was his cancer, I knew it probably wouldn’t be long.  It never is with that one.

Cancer stinks.  Yeah, those words are not original to me, but they are so true.  Sometimes I wonder if we are doing this to ourselves with all the steroids we inject into meat and the pesticides we use on our vegetables.  Not that I am about to become a tree-hugger, but you’ve got to wonder why cancer is so much more prevalent today.

My Uncle Roger was a career Air Force man.  His career took him all over the world, with his last assignment being in Myrtle Beach.  After retirement, he was a civilian contractor on MYB Air Force Base until it closed.  He and my Aunt Pug (her real name is Evelyn, but I don’t even know if she would answer to it any more) lived in Socastee.   Three of their four kids still live at the beach … One lives on the west coast.  Facebook gave me an avenue over the last year or so to really reconnect with all of them, and today I share their pain.

I KNOW many people will say many things to them in the next few days … Things like “it must’ve been God’s will”  and “he is in a better place” and “Heaven needed him a little more than we did.”  And, although those seem to be harmless statements, they might not be quite what a grieving family needs to hear right now.  Sometimes I wish people would just be there and listen.

We all face loss.  Part of what is awesome about being in a church family is we carry these burdens with each other, not alone.  We help each other, because it is the right thing to do.  AND because we know there will be a day when we will need help, too!

4 Responses to “Loss”

  1. Betty Moore-Bell May 18, 2010 at 7:21 pm #

    How about “now he is with the angels?” I’m with you Pal-God can use our ears and our arms much more than our tongues at times like these. So sorry for you and yours. Makes me ache…xoxoxox to you and yours. bmb from Boone

  2. Bill Langston May 18, 2010 at 10:17 pm #

    I think only time and god’s help get you through times like these. words don’t cut it. comfort yourself and your family and go it together.

    May he rest in peace. Our prayers are with you and your family.

    Bill and Marty

  3. Fran Jones May 19, 2010 at 8:25 am #

    Larry and I want to extend our sympathy with love and prayers to you and your family. At times like this we all (brothers and sisters in Christ) need to extend a helpful hand and ear.

  4. T Sawyer May 19, 2010 at 10:14 am #

    God bless you and your family. I’ll add you to my prayers.

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