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CV Boots

24 Dec

“All I want for Christmas is CV BOOTS THAT DON’T SPRAY GREASE!!”  (Imagine a little kid with no front teeth singing that for full effect)

The CV Boot saga started on December 11.  We drove the Passport to Easley the weekend of my niece’s college graduation.  I was checking something under the car when I noticed grease sprayed on the inside of the right tire.  The left tire was clean, but the right tire had spray on the rubber AND inside the wheel.  Further inspection (AND texting two pictures from my iPhone to Paul Frazier’s iPhone) confirmed the outer CV boot was leaking.  A little.  Paul told me it looked to him like it was safe to drive home.  No popping or grinding.  So we brought it home, knowing it would be better to let the guys at Creel look at it OR to do it myself if possible HERE.  If I did it in Easley, it would drive Dad crazy.

So we drove it home.  I talked to the guys at Creel.  It wouldn’t be a terribly expensive repair, but would cost more than I have available at Christmastime.  Another option was a Quick-boot, sold at most auto parts stores.  That one was the $20.00 option, and even if it got me through six months that would be better than putting a lot more money out right now.  So, after talking it over with a couple of experts, that is the route I took.

I bought the boot and waited for a warm day.  IT NEVER CAME!  These boots are made of a rubber/plastic and have to be glued on TWO seams, and require a relatively warm area to work in.  My garage is too full of …. shall I say “stuff!”  I’d been keeping a close eye to see if the spray was getting worse when I suddenly noticed THE OTHER SIDE was spraying, too!!  The left front assembly was doing the same thing!!  I bought a second boot and waited for a good day to do both.

That day came this past Wednesday.  I took the day off and Drew and I set out to do the deed.  And, WOW, what a deed it was!!  We cut the first boot off and proceeded with the repair.  There was plenty of grease still in the joint and didn’t seem to be ANY contamination, so we repacked it and started putting the new boot back on.  To make a long story short, the kit had steel bands with which to clamp the boot.  They didn’t work great, so we opted to put hose clamps on (making sure they had plenty of clearance).  There was a spacing wedge that came in the kit.  It was also in two halves with fingers that interlocked.  It really didn’t fit the axle and kept pushing out when I would tighten the clamp.  I called their technical support, who seemed very knowledgable and helpful, and he recommended I reglue it and allow it to dry.  That didn’t work.  We ended up cutting a small piece of heater hose and using it as a shim.  So far, it is working like a champ!

The first boot took three hours to complete.  The second (minus drying time) took about an hour.  The ONLY other problem (so far) is there is one fold in the boot on the driver’s side that apparently didn’t seal with glue.  It is kind of like a pinhole leak.  The tech team at Dorman Industries (makers of the Quick Boot) is sending something to help me fix it.

The car went up on the jack at 8:30 am and came off around 2:30 pm.  And I have a great appreciation for auto mechanics now!!!  If I’d had the cash, I DEFINITELY would’ve taken it to the shop!!  Drew and I still have grease residue in our cuticles.  The one up side to all of this is we did the repair together, and I think he could do this someday when he has to!!!

Why we do this …

15 Dec

I’ve got to be honest about this:  There are times when it is difficult to push ahead.  But I can’t say I wasn’t warned!  I remember when I took my first job in ministry, and one of the pastors of this church looked at me and said:  “If you can be happy doing anything else, do it.”  I was puzzled by that remark, full of excitement and ready to charge Hell with a waterpistol.  Now I know EXACTLY what he was talking about.

Sometimes it really is hard to deal with what Dean Lisenby calls the 5% rule … at any given time, 5% of the people will think you can do no wrong, and ANOTHER 5% will think you can do NOTHING RIGHT.  All churches have this, whether they will admit it or not.  Ebenezer is no exception.

I remember my statistics days, and think of it as a Bell Curve:

Budget time is a very stressful time at any church.  Especially stressful when we are not meeting our yearly budget.  Honestly, we are not doing as bad as some I know (in relation to how far behind we are).  And we are not doing as well as some, who are exceeding their budget requirements.  I’ve been convinced for some time now that MONEY is not the problem:  Our problem (and the problem at many churches) is an issue of SPIRITUAL HEALTH, and once we get that started on the healing track, our financial support will fall in line where God wants it.

Getting back to the 5%, it gets a little long in the tooth when the same people say the same old things over and over, many of these things NOT favorable towards me, as a pastor, or my staff.  We are not a bunch of lazy folks who sit around all day drinking coffee and gossiping.  We each stretch to the max in our work efforts and don’t complain about it.  There are so many things unseen that are done in a week it would make your head spin!!  And we are not flamboyant about it, trying to draw attention to all of our hard work …  And sometimes, that burns us.  And we are not a bunch of money-hungry wild spenders who do nothing but spend the churches’ money with no regard for common sense or stewardship to the Lord.  In fact, you would find your church staff to be quite the opposite.  And, although there IS a 5% that loves us quite unconditionally and thinks we do no wrong (by the way, we DO make mistakes), its the other 5% and the things they say that motivated this post.

I’ve been thinking ALOT about this in the past couple of days.  And here is the truth about where we are:

We don’t do this for recognition.

We don’t do this so the 5% will get off our backs.

We don’t do this to be the most popular people in church.

We don’t seek power, control, or influence.

We don’t do this because it is easy.

We don’t do this because we couldn’t do anything else in life.

WE DO THIS BECAUSE GOD CALLED US TO IT.  WE DO THIS FOR HIM.  And, remembering those two things help me endure the barbs that come with sitting behind my desk.  They help me when I want to react angrily when someone says something ugly about my staff.  They help me when I want to be angry because someone was very ugly to a family member because of MY JOB!!

GOD helps toughen our skin and gives us a goal to focus on, so we don’t have to slow down and think about all of the junk.  So make NO mistake about this:  We are HIS, and are doing our best to FOLLOW HIM in everything we do.  And I am thankful He called me to this place!!!!

1007

14 Dec

Okay, so I missed my 1000 post.  I posted it, but it had nothing to do with the occasion of 1000 posts on this blog.  So, in honor of my 1007 posts, I am going to list 1,007 things that ANNOY ME!!!!  Here goes (in no certain order):

 

1.  Unicorns

2.  People who don’t know how to drive a car and end up in front of me.

3.  Dogs barking after midnight.

4.  Denzel Crocker

5.  People who cause pain to my family, my staff, and my church (especially those who are supposedly PART of the family)

6.  Three Stooges films without Curly

7.  The Road Runner (yes … I am a Wile E. Coyote FAN!!)

8.  That lady at the Y … you know the one …

9.  Splinters

10.  Brussel Sprouts

(Ok … that’s ten.  I’m tired.  Maybe I’ll add more later)

BRRRRR!

8 Dec

15 degrees outside!  WOW!  I guess physiology or time can explain this, but cold weather has more of an affect on me now that it did when I was young.  Growing up in Easley, I braved my share of these temps in years gone by …  Back then I was more of a polar bear.  I could walk outside in this weather in shorts and a t-shirt (I had to wear that around the house because dad kept it so warm in there with our buck stove).  One of my jobs was to keep wood in that stove.  I had to go outside A LOT in the cold.

Now, I am not a huge fan of the cold.  Days like these make me miss the beach in June!!  So that is what I will be thinking about today!!

A Wild Week

3 Dec

Yeah, this has been a wild one. Nothing scandalous or controversial happening this week, but a wild one indeed!

The highlight (or maybe lowlight) happened yesterday while taking Drew to West Florence. We were riding down Hoffmeyer Road and we heard a CRASH! I thought a rock had hit my window … Drew said “uh, Dad … Your back window is shattered.”. Sure enough, it was!! And we have no idea why. Hit by a rock? Rear-window defroster malfunction? Church member shooting at me??

We will never know. And for now, my glass is being replaced. Thank God for insurance!

Pastor Appreciation

18 Oct

This weekend we made a quick run to the Upstate.  Spent some time with Dad and with Krissy.  It was a good trip but a hard one … But imagine my surprise when we pulled back into our yard at 9:30 Saturday night and found that a gang of rabid yard elves had come, CUT MY GRASS, WEEDED THE FLOWER BED, EDGED, and made my yard look REALLY GOOD!!!!

I found out it was the EBC College Class.  They wanted to do this for Pastor Appreciation Month.  It is definitely the most unique act of Pastor Appreciation I’ve ever received, and they did a REALLY GOOD JOB!!  And it humbles me to know their gift was given by sweat and hard work!  I’m not sure who all was over here, but I’ve heard rumors:  Allison Triplett, Hunter Gregg, Matthew McCabe, David Daniel, Stephanie McCabe, and of course, Phillip the Frog.  I might’ve left someone out, and if so, LET ME KNOW SO I CAN ADD NAMES!!!

That one was really thoughtful and the timing was JUST RIGHT!!  THANKS COLLEGE CRASH!!!!

Caution: Objects are just what they appear to be

13 Oct

Yeah, unusual title.  I know.  Tonight I heard a rumor.  About me.  About trouble.  My blog was mentioned.

I hope that any reader of my blog would not read too much into what I write.  YES, I DO write about me.  My thoughts.  How I feel about things.  Sometimes I reflect on things.  Sometimes I learn lessons.  Sometimes I just make mistakes.

AND THAT IS OKAY.  (Looks into mirror a la Stuart Smiley).  AND PEOPLE LIKE ME.

Please don’t read anything into my blog that is not there.  I promise my mental health is relatively stable.  And I am not paranoid.  And nothing more than the usual challenges that face any pastor are staring me down right now.

AND I AM OKAY.

Sometimes objects in the mirror are EXACTLY what they appear to be.  And nothing more!

One of those things they never told me in seminary

11 Oct

In my theological education, I’ve attended two fine institutions: The New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary and Erskine Theological Seminary.  I will always appreciate those institutions, their faculties, and the students with which I attended.  They prepared me for many of the challenges I would face in ministry.  But there are a few things for which they didn’t prepare me … I chalk these up to the “human element” of church membership.  But there is ONE thing I wish they’d been able to better communicate:  The principle of “The Excuse.”

The principle of “The Excuse” is there are some people in this world, no matter what happens in their lives, that will blame their minister / pastor for their own problems.  That will openly state they are sitting back and waiting for him to fall, fail, or to just leave.  These are the folks that sit back and say “How dare he stand in the pulpit every Sunday and preach when he is so ________________  (you can fill in the blank with your favorite complaint or shortcoming)”.

I wish this principle didn’t get under my skin … but it does.  Maybe it is pride, or maybe just the middle child coming out in me, but I want everyone to be at peace.  And I know I make mistakes.  And I know I am imperfect.  And my family is imperfect.

I guess I never really understood the lengths that some people will go to excuse away their relationship with God and His church.  And now, many years later, I am amazed.  And greatly saddened.

Who do YOU think YOU are?????

9 Oct

Ever had someone ask that of you?  “Who do you think you are?”  All of us have heard that at some point in our lives …

As for me, I thought through that this morning.  And here is EXACTLY who David Wike thinks HE IS:

  • A sinner, saved by grace
  • A man with a second chance
  • Fortunate to have a wife that loves me
  • Blessed with two incredible children
  • Imperfect
  • Quick-fused (at times)
  • Unique
  • Not the best pastor in the world, and not the worst
  • Hard-pressed (at times)
  • Wants everyone to be happy
  • Hates it when the above doesn’t happen
  • Quick-witted
  • Too heavy
  • Needs to be more forgiving
  • A good friend
  • A fierce competitor (at times)

This list could go on and on, but I think you get the idea …

So who do YOU think YOU are??????

Reflections from a day off …

8 Oct

Things have been BUSY and ROUGH lately.  That happens to any pastor, so I know I’m not alone.  Tomorrow will be my first Saturday without something specific to do since the weekend after Labor Day.  When times get this busy, I feel very much like I’m being ground down to dust.  To top it all off, this was a particularly dicey week that I will probably NEVER blog about (but it will definitely make the book).  After some reflection today, I’ve come to realize a few things …

1.  Sometimes when you stick your neck out for people who need help, you get burned.  Sometimes even by people you love.

2.  Getting burned feels bad and makes you consider never sticking your neck out like that again.

3.  God never guaranteed that I wouldn’t get burned, and in fact as the Great Physician, there is no burn invented that He cannot heal.

4.  I WILL stick my neck out again.

5.  I might get burned again.

6.  God is in control.

7.  It’s amazing how just a little time to step away from things helps to reset perspective.